This is going to end up in the LC Anger thread at some point because I’m going to lose my mind, but for now it’s information gathering time… If you’re willing to share, and you have planned/paid for a wedding, who did you tip and not tip, and how much if you recall? Maybe also mention when you got married.
This shit seems out of control, and at this point it almost feels like a shakedown from some of these people. I don’t want to poison the well of responses on who should or shouldn’t get tipped, so I’ll just say some of these people I think it’s reasonable to tip, others I’m appalled.
These are the people who have made it clear that they are supposed to be tipped and if they’ve told us how much they expect, that’s included. We are paying the venue $275 per server/staff member and $330 per bartender, but our understanding is that they get a little over half of that and the venue gets the rest. The others we don’t know what their cut is from the per plate cost, venue rental costs, etc, and some are salaried with benefits. The servers/bartenders will be working five hours directly for us, I’m assuming at least six or seven hours with setup/teardown time. It’s an open bar, but I assume most people will tip the bartender - at least I always have when I’ve been at a wedding with an open bar. Maybe I’ve been doing it wrong?
Venue
Servers ($100 each)
Bartenders ($100 each)
Site staff ($100 each)
Head Chef ($200)
Assistant Chefs ($150 each)
Wedding Coordinator ($200)
Assistant Coordinators ($150)
Event Designer ($300)
Vendors
Hair/makeup stylist (no specification on how much)
Wedding dress store (they said it would be appreciated, no specification)
The following people have not mentioned it, but the internet says they are supposed to be tipped:
Florist (20%)
Officiant ($100)
Photographer ($200 each)
Videographer (unknown)
DJ (20%)
Some of these people own their business or are directly contracting with us, others work for a business we’re contracting with.
Could be missing a few others, but at least the responses should give me a general idea of whether I’m a raging asshole or some of these people are trying to shake me down. Curious to see how many people agree about who should/shouldn’t be tipped here.